Thursday, August 13, 2009

Relearning life's importance

Life's sure been hectic these last few weeks. Hubby severely broke his leg almost three weeks ago. Unfortunately, we didn't realize how bad until about four days later. We thought that it was just torn ligaments, so he suffered for days, with two bones broken in his lower, left leg. I feel guilt and all that comes with that, on not insisting that he go to the ER earlier, but what's done is done, as they say.
So, now here we are, almost a full three weeks later. He's undergone two surgeries, has been living in a narcotic haze, and still faces months of physical therapy, before he can even put any weight on the leg.
It's been a stressful, scary, lonely ride, but also an eye opening experience. One thing I've learned for sure, is that I'm a lot stronger than I give myself credit for. At first, all of it was so overwhelming, that I don't know how I could've gotten through it without the support of my fabulous family and friends. I've had to learn firsthand, on how to care for someone who can't care for themselves. It's a good lesson, since hubby is 15 yrs older than I, and more than likely will be an issue for us both later in our lives.
I've also learned that right questions to ask, and how to ask, and who to ask. Feeling a little more in control, makes the day to day tasks that much easier to handle.
My bosses have been fantastic, giving me the time I needed to deal with care, from home health aides, to coordinating family and friends as sitters, to surgeries, etc. One fantastic thing about working for a family business, they do emphasize the importance of family. I've known this for some time, since hubby has been dealing with cancer for years now, as well.
Learning to deal with work, care, hospitals, even transporting the ever hurting hubby, has been challenging, but I'm getting better at asking for help when I needed it.
It's still an adjustment dealing with having to do EVERYTHING, from taking out the trash to working, to paying bills, to coordinating health care. I'm figuring it out, now, and learning that the dust bunnies can wait, the lawn will have to look like a jungle for a bit, and the work can be handled, even if on Saturdays.
Thank god for my wonderful family and friends.

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